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Dear Aunty Pam,

 

Do all women lose their minds at a certain age or is it just my wife?

 

She just turned 60 and came home last week from the beauty parlor with PURPLE hair! I started laughing because I thought it was food coloring and she was joking around, but then she got mad and said she’d decided to dye her hair this color. When I told her I didn’t want to wake up next to a woman with purple hair, then she told me I’d better sleep on the couch!

 

I don’t know what to expect from her next. I think it might be a mid-life (or late mid-life) crisis, but I’m embarrassed to be seen with her and I can’t even imagine what everybody at church is going to think.

 

Help!

 

Signed,

Unhappy Husband

 

Dear Hubs,

 

I don’t know your wife’s name but I shall be toasting her snappy retort to you over a glass of something fizzy tonight!

 

Look, the purple color thing isn’t, and shouldn’t, be any big, hairy deal. In fact, so many women have chosen to be a bit of a maverick and ditch their boring Clairol brown and blond tresses, that purple, blue and even streaks of green are becoming mainstream. Call it a midlife crisis if you like, but I suspect it’s mostly about just wanting a bit of a change from the same old, same old.

 

And, frankly, I can’t imagine anyone at your church will really mind, and if they do, well, then that’s a judgment they need to work on—not your wife.

 

So calm down, hubby, and maybe ask yourself this: Any chance that what this is really all about is that your wife chose to do something a bit rebellious without speaking with you about it, and that, alone, feels a bit threatening? Makes you feel a bit left out? Remember this: feelings aren’t facts. They’re simply physical sensations. Why not celebrate her hair color with her—maybe you’ll be inspired to try a streak of navy blue the next time you go to the barber!

 

Cheers, dear!

Aunty Pam